Learn the 90/10 Secret & Change Your Life!
Dear Friends:
The 90/10 secret is incredible!
Very few know and apply this secret. The result?
Millions of people are suffering undeserved stress, trials, problems, and heartache.
They never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days.
Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. Their's is constant stress,
lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time, anger breaks
friendships, and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the
fullest.
Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often even seems cruel.
Does this describe you?
If so, do not be discouraged. You can be different!
Understand and apply the 90/10 secret. It will change your life!
What is this secret?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.
We cannot stop the car from breaking down.
The plane may be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule
off.
A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over
this 10%.
The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%! How?
By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction.
Don't let people fool you, YOU can control how you react!
Let's use an example...
You're eating breakfast with your family.
Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt.
You have no control over what just happened.
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the
coffee cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her,
you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup to
close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows.
You storm upstairs and change your shirt.
Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too busy crying
to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work, so you rush to the
car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you
drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph zone.
After a 15 minute delay - and throwing away $60 on a traffic fine -
you arrive at school. Your daughter runs to the building without
saying good-bye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you
find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terribly.
As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.
You look forward to going home.
When you arrive home you find a small wedge in your relationship
with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the Policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the
coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your
bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened...
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You
gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next
time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new
shirt and your briefcase. You come back down in time look
through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She
turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you both go to
work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.
Your boss comments on what a good day you are already having.
And from there it just gets better.
Notice the difference. Two different scenarios.
Both started the same. Each ended differently. Why?
Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.
The other 90% is determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret.
If someone says something negative about you, do not be a
sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You do not have
to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will
not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend,
being fired, getting stressed out, etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you loose
your temper? Pound the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had
the steering wheel fall off!) Do you curse? Does your blood
pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if
you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let that other driver
ruin your drive. Remember the 90-10 principle, and don't worry about
it!
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated?
It will work out. Use your "worrying" energy and time into finding
another job.
The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day.
Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no
control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know
the other passenger, etc. Why get stressed out? It will just make
things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 secret.
Apply it and you will be amazed at the positive results.
Get started today!
Dr. Mark R. Crapo, OMD, DAc, BS, LAc, CA
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